Paradox of Recovery

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  • True freedom requires obedience to laws 
  •  The source of your greatest power lies in that which is intangible (thought, feelings and spirituality)   
  • To lose self-will to God’s will for you is to find yourself   
  •  When you lose yourself in serving others, you find yourself  
  •  He who is the least committed in a relationship has the most control 
  •  When you can admit your powerlessness, let go of self will and let God have the control, you gain control
  • There is strength in admitting your weaknesses because only then can you change 
  • “The man with insight enough to admit his limitations comes nearest to perfection” ~Goethe   
  • The easy way is the hard way, the hard way is the easy way (Delayed Gratification) 
  • Sometimes less is more  (As in enabling:  giving or helping too much can be destructive.) 
  • The more individuated a person is, the closer they can be in a relationship because they have good boundaries and are not enmeshed. ~James Bradshaw 
  • There is strength in admitting  your weaknesses (if you learn from them) 
  • The greatest love is allowing others to hate you because you are doing the right thing. (Example: Tough love - Refusing to enable or condone irresponsible choices of others)  
  • Forgiving a person who has wronged you is the gift you give to yourself Forgiveness releases you from further carrying the burden of resentment 
  • Sometimes war is required to gain peace. (Passive people who do nothing allow aggressors to reign. Assertive people who are willing to fight for individual rights assure peace) 
  • To truly love others, learn how to love yourself first 
  • Admitting your ignorance leads to more intelligence because you allow yourself  to be taught 
  • Helping others is a great way to forget about our own difficulties 
  • "The love we give away is the only love we keep." - Elbert Hubbard  
  • Sacrifice is required to attain freedom 
  • Only by experiencing pain can you understand joy
  • Ending one thing is the beginning of another
  • Sometimes the worst things that happen to us end up being the best things that have ever happened to us